You're engaged! Now what?
Congratulations! You're engaged! Now what? You've got a rock on your finger, and you just made the promise to marry your partner! Not that the question has been popped, what do you do now that you are engaged? Here are a few things to do...
You need to celebrate! I mean, you just got engaged! It's a pretty big deal!
Don't feel the need that you need to get started planning immediately. As fun as being engaged is, it can get pretty stressful too. Take some time to let it sink in that you are going to be getting married! You've got enough time to wait on planning so that you can enjoy this moment.
You won't be the only one celebrating, anyway! Once you tell your friends and family, you are going to be telling the story over and over of how you were asked, and each time, you may exaggerate how romantic it was a little bit more. I promise you, you aren't going to get tired of telling this story! Just like you aren't going to get tired of taking all of those selfies with your new fiancé or pictures of your hand! Well, really the ring on your finger. (;
Ok, Now Get Planning!
Ok, maybe it's been a month (or more) since you got engaged. Now would be a good time to get to planning! After all, there is so much to plan! The date, the venue, the vendors...
Consider hiring a wedding planner, or at least consult with one. Wedding planners are the experts that can plan a wedding in their sleep, make magic happen, and make sure Uncle Bob is in the right place at the right time when you need him.
This would also be the ideal time to book your vendors who book their clients well in advance. Usually, this means the venue, the DJ, and the photographer.
In my experience as a wedding photographer, it is not rare for me to book many of my clients 10 to 12 months prior to the actual wedding date.
If you've considered hiring a videographer, I would say to do it, even if you only have $500 budgeted for video. My wife and I did not hire a videographer, and it is honestly our biggest regret for our wedding day.
About my wedding services...
I don't like to give discounts, but I offer to couples who go through premarital counseling. My wife and I went through premarital counseling and it has helped our relationship tremendously. Marriage, honestly, isn't always fun and games, and when it's rough, it's good to have some tools under your belt for how to handle the "not so fun" parts of marriage. Because I want my couples to have great marriages, I encourage them to go through premarital counseling. As a small incentive, I offer up to $1000 off of my wedding services, include a free engagement session and free guest sign-in book. Consider it as me putting where my mouth is when I encourage my couples to go through counseling.
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Take Engagement Photos!
Once you've hired a photographer, you should book an engagement session with him (or her). If you aren't sure if you should have an engagement session or not, here are a few things to consider.
- Many wedding photographers include the engagement session when booking with them. So you might as well make the most out of the perks you get!
- This is an opportunity to get comfortable in front of the camera and to learn how you and your photographer interact with each other.
- You'll get to know your photographer on a more personal level, which will be beneficial for you. After all, your photographer will be with you during the most intimate parts of your wedding day!
- You can use these photos for your Save the Dates, Invitations, and Guest Sign-In Book!
If you are still nervous about engagement photos, you should check out my Free Guide on How to Have an Authentic Engagement Session! To download it, just sign up for my newsletter by clicking the image below and signing up for my newsletter!
READ READ READ!
Reading blogs on how to plan a wedding may be one of the most helpful things you can do at this point. They can help you determine the style of wedding you want, find out which vendors to avoid, and learn how to save money in some areas while retaining the quality of the look you want!
Many planners will share tips and tricks on their blogs, while most photographers and other professionals will post their work on their blogs. Blogs are also great for of finding out what vendors are like, which will help you feel either more connected or disconnected from them. Obviously, you want to try to book the vendors you connect with!
Create a Schedule
Wedding planning is hard work, and there may be times it feels like there is not enough time. My advice is to set a schedule and boundaries for planning. Here is what one of my own brides said.
"My mom helped me out a ton, and one thing we promised each other was to stop all wedding talk by 8 p.m. every night. By this point in the evening we were both pretty beat from working all day, and if we discussed wedding details past this time, we would often end up in a little argument over something small simply because we were tired from the work day" - Jill Thompson (See her wedding here)
Enjoy the Adventure!
Don't stress (too much) about the wedding planning. If you hire a planner, lean on her as much as you can, otherwise, just take your time. It doesn't have to be planned right now, and it's a good idea to have a few backup plans.
The venue you want to get married at may be booked up. Your dream photographer may be unavailable. There are so many things that will make this adventure a little more adventurous, and that's ok! Because at the end of it all, you aren't getting married to the wedding. You are getting married to your fiancé.
Happy planning! You can do this!